Dear Mum,
Happy New Month! How does that sound, one week into the month? It’s not just any other month; it’s February! I hear that that this month is actually a big deal for lovers… Oh how I wanted to run away from this subject, but how can I?
Last Saturday for instance, I attended a certain meeting and this is how Mr. Philanthropy introduced his wife: “Ladies and gentlemen (that was obvious right? anyway…), I present to you the most beautiful woman on the face of the Earth. She is the queen of Africa, the woman who boils my blood, the only strawberry on my yogurt…” He went on and on and the laughter in the hall could not let me hear the rest. He later introduced the speaker, “Man of God, you are such a cocktail of grace… A friend and a father to me…”
Clearly, people are putting their most lovey-dovey foot forward, which makes it hard to ignore the wave of affection. I also realized that some of my Mr. friends are naturally warming up in their conversations. Instead of the usual ‘Hi Ndinda…’, it’s now ‘Hi Sweet@’ and truth is, I still don’t get it… Like, is the word ‘heart’ that long? Is ‘lov’ a word in any dictionary?
Don’t get me wrong, this ain’t about ‘playing hard to get’, it’s about clarity and avoiding assumptions. What I would tell my girls is that whatever they say this month, just smile, understand and pass. It’s a tricky month and it’s advisable that you take your time before you make a permanent decision based on a temporary mood.
Yes, it’s a mood and a wave of confusion for many hearts. In case you are doubting and you think it’s all real, what would you say about the Facebook updates on my home page:
MW was feeling concerned: “Dear friends, please help. When someone calls you sweetie, honey, love, sweetheart and the rest, does it necessarily mean that you are in love with them, or something of that sort?”. Poor guy, I thought. I hope the 20 comments posted within a few hours of his post were of some help.
I scrolled down expecting to find something different; A recent scientific innovation, a wisdom nugget from the quote-lovers, or a new month declaration from my ever spiritual friends but guess what… JM was looking for love: “Every time I try to think of you and remember your glorious memories, tears come to my eyes and I cannot see. I need somebody to whisper to me. Three words, three words, three words that say ‘I love you'”. Within 15 hours, he had 205 likes and 87 comments, most of which were ladies telling him how much they loved him.
“Never rush into falling in love, because love never runs out; Let love be the one to knock at your door. Besides true love is worth waiting for”.
Whatever you do with love this month, remember this legendary wisdom: “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right”, Song of Solomon 8:4, NLT
Here is my gift to all @ndindafah readers:
I love you, Not only for what you are,
But for what I am,When I’m with you.
I love you, Not for what you made of yourself,
But for what… You are making of me.
I love you, For ignoring the possibilities,
Of the fool in me, And for laying firm hold.
I love you because you are helping me to make,
Of the foundation of my life…
Not a tavern but a temple; And out of the words,
Of my everyday not a reproach but a song.
Poem: Why do I love you? By Halpaa duarte.
Warmest Feb Regards,
Ndindafah
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